If you want to walk fast, walk alone. If you want to walk far, go together.” – African proverb
In our three previous blogs, we introduced you to the Hero, the Victim and the Player. These personas represent the three places, Independence, Dependence and Codependence, on the Strategic Interdependence Model® that form the toxic triangle. At these places, you are triggered to frustration and unable to see clearly as you myopically focus on serving your needs. What’s more, you disconnect from the resources you do have, your strengths, your intelligence and other people. This can leave you feeling weak, judgmental of self and others, and in state of low energy and low performance.
What can you do to shift up out of the toxicity you are experiencing when in any of these places? We introduce you to the Synergizer.
This is the world of Interdependence in the People Acuity™ Strategic Interdependence Model®.
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The Synergizer’s theme is “I serve us, so we can serve others”. The Synergizer lives from a truly human place of Confident Vulnerability®. As a Synergizer, you know what you are, you know what you are not, and you are okay with both. You confidently choose to bring your puzzle piece, your unique contributions, and welcome others to do the same as you work with others to create better results and relationships. You let go of judgment of self or others as you model interdependence by creating an environment of acceptance and appreciation for others’ uniqueness, inviting them to choose to be in interdependence with you and others. The Synergizer brings both confidence and vulnerability to create high-energy and performance for self and others.
As the Synergizer, you live from a place of unconditional curiosity. You acknowledge fear and redirect or reframe it in an empowering, mature way that allows you to embrace the learning it offers. You have no fear for loss, and you think from a mindset of abundance and possibilities. You are also brutally honest with yourself, and in the spirit of unconditional acceptance of self (and others), you tell on yourself when you are not sure, when you don’t know or when you are not able.
Your energy is about us, you and me and how much better we are together! The greater good and the interest of ALL stakeholders is your first and main focus. You are resourceful, able to skillfully pause and reflect on what you, others and the situation needs. You then bring your strengths and invite others to bring theirs to meet those needs so you can create better results and relationships together. This is the place of optimal performance and deep fulfillment.
What if you had the strategies and tools to shift up out of toxicity so you could create better results and relationships for yourself and others? How would your life be different if you lived more often from Confident Vulnerability®? What would that look like for you?
To learn more about Interdependence, the Synergizer and the Strategic Interdependence Model®, we invite you to download the Dealing with People Who Drive You Crazy eBook. We also encourage you to explore these People Acuity™ videos and the online 15-minute mini-courses to deepen your learning (use our discount code – HCBSdiscount).
About the authors:
Brian Kelly is a Strengths Strategy Certified Coach, Certified Strengths Strategies for Optimal Performance (SSOP) Facilitator, a co-thought leader and Faculty Coach at People Acuity, a Strengths Strategy Company. Brian is a strengths-centered human development coach, thought-leader, and strategist committed to developing our current and next generation of diverse, inclusive human leaders. Brian works with leaders and their teams to help them see differently so they can interdependently create better business results through better human results.
Tinus van der Merwe is a Strengths Strategy Certified Coach, Certified Strengths Strategies for Optimal Performance (SSOP) Facilitator and a co-thought leader at People Acuity. He has an infectious passion for coaching and abundance of care for his clients. He has completed over 13,000 hours of coaching and facilitating solutions (over 1,200 hours of coaching alone) with clients from a wide variety of cultures and countries, from Specialists to Top Executives.